Do you think that only women fall for the bad apple? Think again. Renowned love expert and psychiatrist, Dr. Carole Lieberman, knows better.
Her book Bad Girls includes more than 100 shocking and intimate interviews with men who were hooked on bad girls and how it ruined their lives. Dr. Carole shares how Kate Middleton may have used a few "bad-girl" tricks to catch her prince — and how you can, too!
Three-time Emmy award-winner and author of the bestselling book Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them and When to Leave Them, Dr. Carole can be heard live every Tuesday as the host of the popular talk show Dr. Carole’s Couch onVoiceAmerica. She also maintains a star-studded private practice in Beverly Hills, and works as a psychiatric expert witness, testifying in high-profile trials.
If you have ever lost a man to a bad girl, need to learn to fight like a bad girl, or a just want to read a fascinating interview about modern love, do not miss a word of our interview with Dr. Carole about Bad Girls!
D: Why did you write Bad Girls?
Dr. C: I wrote Bad Girls: Why Men Love Them & How Good Girls Can Learn Their Secrets because the love jungle has become wilder and more dangerous than ever, and I wanted to help men and women find the love they deserve. Men need to be warned about the ‘Dozen Dangerous Damsels’, the 12 types of bad girls. And good girls need to learn bad girl secrets in order to attract a man and keep him away from the bad girls who try to steal him.
DD: What is a “Bad Girl”?
Dr.C: By ‘bad girl’, I don’t mean a trashy girl or an evil girl. A ‘bad girl’ is a woman who has had her heart broken too many times, beginning when she was little and had a father who made her feel unlovable. When she grew up, she began dating guys who treated her badly and rejected her, so that she became more convinced that she was not lovable.
At some point, she takes her heart off her sleeve and hardens it, deciding to pursue guys for other things she can get from them, as a substitute for love. For example, a Gold-Digger goes after a man who will pamper her and give her material things. A Married Woman on the Prowl goes after a man who is willing to have a relationship with her, even though he knows she’s married. A Cougar goes after a younger man who will prove to the world that she is still very desirable.
DD: Can a good girl ever beat a bad girl when it comes to getting a man?
Dr. C: Good girls have been fed lies about what it takes to get and keep a man. They want to believe that being ‘good’ is enough, and that it’s what’s inside that counts. Unfortunately, it takes more effort than this. It takes what I call the "Six Secret Spells of Seduction." These have been culled from my interviews of over 100 guys who have suffered through bad girl experiences, and who shared what these women did to keep them hooked.
DD: Do bad girls ever change and make good wives?
Dr. C: Bad girls can change. In my book, I explain what makes each of the “Dozen Damsels” tick, particularly what happened in their childhoods to make them turn out that way.
These insights may be enough for some bad girls to change. Others can use this as a starting point, a gentle push to get them into psychotherapy and know what to
begin talking about.
DD: Can you think of a few well-known good girls who used “Bad Girls” tactics to win their men?
Dr. C: Kate Middleton is the best current example of a good girl who used bad girl secrets to hook her prince. Some bad girls whom you may not have realized were ‘bad’ are: Carrie Bradshaw who is a Commitment-Phobe, Charlotte York who is a Husband Hunter and Trapper, Samantha Jones who is a Sex Siren, and Miranda Hobbs who is a Ball-Buster.
DD: One of the most famous and interesting Good Girl-Bad Girl battles was between Angelina Jolie and Jennifer Aniston, when Brad Pitt left Jennifer for Angelina. Jennifer fans consider Angelina a “bad girl,” yet others consider her a “Madonna,” with all of her children and humanitarian activism. Is she a “Bad Girl” or a “Good Girl”?
Dr. C: When it comes to men, Angelina Jolie is undoubtedly a bad girl - the Husband Stealer type. She set her trap to hook Brad Pitt before they even got on the movie set. When the director called, "Action!" Angelina put her spell into action and Brad was a sitting duck. This proves that even the ’sexiest man alive’ can be ensnared by a bad girl, and that even a really cool good girl, like Jennifer Aniston, can have her man snatched away by a bad girl.
DD: Kate Middleton seems to be a “Good Girl”, but the royals definitely have a frisky side to them, how do you think she got her man?
Dr C: Kate Middleton is the quintessential good girl who used bad girl secrets to literally catch her prince. First, in high school, when the boys rated her a 2 out of 10, she didn’t give up on herself, but took it as a wakeup call. That summer, she took an honest look at herself and realized that it would take more than natural sweet looks to get a guy’s attention. She lost some weight, got into make-up, and dressed more stylishly in hopes that the guys would rank her higher.
Then, in college, she took the bold step of wearing a see-through outfit (that was supposed to be a skirt with something underneath it) as a dress. She essentially walked the runway of the fashion show wearing her black underwear. Prince William is said to have remarked, "she’s hot!" And Kate went from sweet platonic friend to love interest in a heartbeat.
After they had been dating awhile, the prince wanted to sow his wild oats. A good girl would have pouted and nagged, but Kate let him go. She went out on the town and partied, as well. When William saw that she wasn’t just sulking at home, he suddenly realized he could lose her and he came running back like a puppy dog.
I recently went to London to bid on Kate’s famous dress. I lost out to a higher bidder. However, I did manage to scoop up four lingerie pieces of the Duchess of Windsor, the quintessential bad girl who seduced her man into giving up a kingdom!